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Monday, December 31, 2012

A New Year


Seeing this favorite on the Writer's Almanac today, I just had to share it with my friends on the internet.  It feels so right and in step with my current personal thoughts. 
Happy New Year 
ERF
New Year Resolve
byMay Sarton

The time has come
To stop allowing the clutter
To clutter my mind
Like dirty snow,
Shove it off and find
Clear time, clear water.

Time for a change,
Let silence in like a cat
Who has sat at my door
Neither wild nor strange
Hoping for food from my store
And shivering on the mat.

Let silence in.
She will rarely speak or mew,
She will sleep on my bed
And all I have ever been
Either false or true
Will live again in my head.

For it is now or not
As old age silts the stream,
To shove away the clutter,
To untie every knot,
To take the time to dream,
To come back to still water.



Read about the  Interesting life and work of May Sarton

“Writers end up writing stories--

or rather, stories' shadows

--and they're grateful if they can, 

but it is not enough. 

Nothing the writer can do is ever enough”

—Joy Williams

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Calendar House: A Senior Center Meeting the Future Head On

Calendar House:  Planning Visions for the Future of Rapidly Changing Senior Generations 

By E. Richard Fortunato
Calendar House Senior Center - Southington, CT

Based on a commentary published in the Southington Citizen - November 27, 2012

It’s surprising how many in a town of 42,000 like Southington, CT. either don’t know what Calendar House is or what goes on there.  Located on Pleasant Street, across from the Joseph A. DePaolo Middle School, this town-owned and operated senior center is the leading go-to-place for many active 55 + adults.

Calendar House provides physical fitness classes and artistic opportunities such as painting, stained glass work, games, reading, TV and a host of learning opportunities. There are clubs for those interested in financial investments, digital photography and computer maintenance.  

Computer Learning Center - Class in Action in Lab
Computer classes are taught by trained and experienced volunteer instructors in a friendly environment in the Computer Learning Center.  At a nominal fee, classes start with the most basic introduction to computers up to and including a wide range of interests and the opportunity to learn and develop skills in the effective use of word processing, email, internet, digital photography, managing your files and folders, computer maintenance and more, including the most recently added course in the effective use of your iPad. 

Seniors enjoy a modestly priced nutritional noon time meal
at the Calendar House Senior Cafe 
A multiple-use main hall at Calendar House provides for entertainment, social events, health information programs and services.  A popular noon-time activity is a modestly-priced healthy meal that also offers members opportunities for social interaction forging new friendships.  

Popular deluxe motor coach trips to interesting places and entertaining events are also organized for members. 

As to demographics, the 55 + population in Southington of more than 12,500 continues to grow.  The boomer generation is well on its way into active senior living while life expectancy increases  significantly.  People now coming into their senior years are more attuned to higher tech activities and lifestyles than their predecessors.  The challenge for Calendar House is to keep pace with the swiftly changing senior culture.  

This year, the town's focus has shifted to a closer look at what Calendar House is now and what it needs to be to provide optimum service and use of our maturing generations. 

In early summer of 2012, after months of review and great interest by the senior population, the town council acted to place the responsibility for the operations of Calendar House directly under the authority of the Town Manager, Garry Brumback, with the executive director, Bob Verderame, reporting directly to him. 

The council revised its ordinance code to change the role of the previously controlling Senior Citizens Commission to one of an advisory board that would assist the town and Calendar House with new and fresh ideas based on positive and forward thinking as it conceives and develops ideas for new possibilities.  The town council will revisit these changes in July 2013.

Meanwhile, for decades, there had already been in place an effective association of the members of Calendar House.  That association is well organized with by-laws and committees under the direction of a board of directors elected by the senior members annually. They meet regularly and works closely with the Calendar House executive director, Bob Verderame, to advise and assist in him in its activities. Members are themselves seniors who are very active in Calendar House activities, many of them being present at the center weekly and even daily.  

Leslie Cotton, Town Clerk, administers oath to Mark White
with Garry Brumback, Town Manager, and Peter Freeman,
President of Calendar House Membership Association (l) and
Lana White observing. 
The Town Council agreed with its Ordinance Committee's study that the senior citizens commission should become an advisory body rather than a controlling board with the direct management and reporting lines being under the control of the Town Manager, Garry Brumback.  The council also saw wisdom in the idea of involving seniors including those active in Calendar House leadership to be involved in the work of the future of the facility and its potential because of their experience and knowledge of the center and the people it serves.  

Membership association president, Peter Freeman, was authorized by the town council to serve or designate someone to serve on the new Senior Advisory Commission.  He named C. Mark White, vice president of the membership association, to a  new seat on the advisory board with the enthusiastic concurrence of the Calendar House Membership Association's Board of Directors and its membership. Confirmation by Town Council Chairman, John Dobbins was prompt.  

A month later, Dobbins appointed Clifford H. Snow, Jr. to a vacant seat on the Senior Citizen Advisory Commission,  after the resignation for personal reasons of Margaret Chase. 

Town Council Chairman John Dobbins congratulates Cliff Snow
on taking the oath of office on the Senior Advisory Commission
with Garry Brumback (l), Leslie Cotton, (center) and
Gert Semrow, (r.), looking on. 
Snow has been active at Calendar House since 1996, serving as auditor of the Finance Committee and Chairman of the By-Laws Committee.  Elected a director in 2000, Snow was then elected president for five consecutive years and has since continued to serve as a director.  Through his dedication to Calendar House, Snow has become an iconic figure and highly respected leader in the organization. He refers to Calendar House as his home away from home.

Change has already started. One example is The Dial-A-Ride Bus program which is a major service of Calendar House  providing free transportation to 55 + residents and people with disabilities to accommodate visits to doctors, dentists, shopping locations and a daily service to and from Calendar House for lunch, programs, activities and appointments such as the critical service of transportation to regular dialysis appointments at Bradley Memorial Hospital. 

The Dial-A-Ride bus service had frankly become an increasing source of controversy prior to the change over of the senior commission to an advisory body.  Differences in approaches and management style among commissioners also led to a deepening divide between the former senior commission and the executive director, the staff, volunteer leaders and members of Calendar House.

The upside is that the issues were effectively addressed after the appointment by Brumback of an Audit Committee that included Freeman, Edward S. Pocock, Jr., and White, working directly with Verderame and the staff. 

Scheduling, dispatch and service have all been improved in a very short span of time with the introduction of technology to drive the system instead of the prior manual system.  In addition, a fourth bus was added and the staff and drivers participated in professional customer service training. 

"The restructuring of the program is a credit to"the efforts of the Audit Committee and a re-energized staff who have accomplished it by making more efficient use of limited resources." Brumback said. Verderame said that he was pleased that innovative ideas are moving along well and that the staff and clients seem to be happy with the results. 

Brumback also mentioned that photos of the staff and volunteers are now prominently displayed in the lobby to aid members seeking direction and information. 

Among other plans for Calendar House, Brumback noted the establishment of a Strategic Planning Committee whose mission is to develop a vision for the Calendar House of the future.  “While there is much to be done, we also have a wealth of human resources available to us in our senior population to help us achieve our goals”, Brumback said.   Freeman said that there is more to come with substantive ideas in their formative stages of development. "All this will, in time, bring about exciting and creative innovations for Calendar House." Freeman said.   

Meanwhile, around Calendar House, the staff and volunteers are busy as ever with a renewed spirit that the future looks bright. 

If you haven't visited Calendar House, consider dropping in for a visit weekdays between 8:30 am and 4:30 pm.  The staff will also be pleased to arrange a tour for prospective members or a family member. 

Read more about Calendar House at its website. 


Friday, December 14, 2012

We Mourn

Children being evacuated from Sandy Hook Elementary |
School in Newtown, CT after mass shooting on Dec. 14, 2012
Contemplative Thoughts on a Day of Horror

By E, Richard Fortunato

There is no tragedy I can imagine that draws us to mourn together so universally as the unspeakable events that caught the nation completely off guard today in Newtown, CT.

People all over the state of Connecticut are in shock and are hurting deeply and personally for our neighbors in Newtown.  The nation joins us in mourning and the sense of deep sorrow.

How can any of us escape the frightful thought of the bloody outburst of the murder of innocent children on December 14, 2012, children who will not see tomorrow or the years of happy and productive tomorrows they could have lived to see. And what of the
valiant teachers and principal under whose care were
the education and safety of those beautiful kindergarten children.  .
Panic stricken parents frantic for information
about their children

Panic stricken parents, courageous law enforcement officials and town citizens rushed to the scene in disbelief.

Those happy little children, the darlings of their homes and families, left home for school this morning like millions of other American children. But tonight... we cannot begin to imagine the devastation this contemptible evil has brought to their parents, siblings, grandparents, friends and neighbors.
Woman holding child outside of Meethodist Church in
Newtown getting ready to go into prayer vigil. 


Millions of words will be spoken and written in the immediate and long term aftermath of this horrendous tragedy. The story will continue to visit the families and many of us as a recurring nightmare with new developments of horror as conconctions of our imagination with each repetition of the dreams turned to nightmares..

Our socio-political media and government apparatus will veer and vent into a  sweeping excursus of the story as they analyze, scrutinize and attempt to find answers with issues like guns, the disturbed yet evasive human psyche of evil perpetrators, and our societal values and culture. And, yes, that all needs to be done conscientiously and with apolitical determination that events such as today's will never happen again.

Meanwhile, it is ours to counsel, to comfort, to mourn with those whose loss is the greatest at this moment, and to pray that God be with the families and the innocent souls of those taken by the most evil human violence we could have imagined today in Newtown.

And so, families, a tranquil and beautiful town, a state and a nation mourn!

President Barrack Obama speaks from the White House
in a historic moment of national horror moved to
tearful emotion. 



Thursday, December 13, 2012

Southington Rocks with Record Smashing Fund Raiser for the Local Hungry

By E. Richard Fortunato

As published in the Southington Citizen, December 14, 2012

      Ringing the Bells for the Salvation Army Appeal for
Southington Community Services and the local hungry they
serve were Sen. Joe Markley (left), and Rep. Rob Sampson (right).
Others.shown are John Myers, YNCA Director, Kanwaljit Singh
and Parminer Kaur  of the Sikh Temple in Southington
and Mary Beth  Hanisko of EWalmart. 

Texting, e-Mail, Facebook and cell phones were screaming the news Tuesday morning!  “Southington Rocks”, said an email from John Myers, Director of the Southington-Cheshire YMCA. “Wow – Southington is Amazing!”, said another email from Karen McCarthy of the Y Community Development unit.  

After a one-hour Salvation Army bell ringing by Sen. Joe Markley and Rep. Rob Sampson at Southington’s Walmart on Monday, Salvation Army Treasurer, Kaye Davis, (who is also Director of United Way of Southington), called with the astonishing news that the people of Southington had brought gifts to the Red Kettle totaling $24,716 to help Southington Community Services feed                                      
                                                                                              the town’s local hungry. 

Walmart’s Community Liaison  person, Mary Beth Hanisko, joined the bell ringers for the entire hour. Hanisko was thrilled at the results saying that she and store manager, Jay McClure, were excited about the prospect of being the number one Walmart store in Connecticut, again this year, and hopefully having a shot at being number one in the country in helping to feed the hungry.

Now in its second year, the one-hour bell ringing drive is a collaborative effort of the Salvation Army, Director of Southington Community Services, Janet Mellon, Walmart and the state legislative republicans represented in Southington by Markley and Sampson, ringing the bells.  Walmart matches the dollars brought in by all donations so that Southington’s Food Pantry will receive the amazing total of $49.432.

Stunned and filled with joy by the good news, Mellon said: “It’s thrilling beyond words. People in Southington do care about people.” “It’s what this town is about”, Davis said.  Sampson said that after last year’s record amount of $25.000, highest in the state for a  Walmart Store, doubling that amount this year is absolutely astounding.” 

Debbie Denorfio and Mark Fazzolari ringing bells at the
red kettle at the north entrance of Walmart.
“There is a distinct spirit of great generosity in Southington. We see the town come through when the chips are down.”, Markley noted.  “There is an exceptional town quality of giving the help neighbors.”, Markley said.

Mellon said that many of those who come to Southington Community Services are deeply anxious about these times. “Already not making ends meet, they hear the news of what is happening in our country, millions out of a job, the financial crisis, deficits, and rising taxes; how are we going to get through this, the ask?”, Mellon said. “Just the food we purchase from Food Share runs around $70,000 per year. And that’s without the many other services provided, clothing, rent and utilities assistance, referrals to state agencies, counseling, toys for children who would go without.” Mellon said. 

These many needs shed some light on the motivation of the corps of volunteers at Southington Community Services who continue to be so busy anytime you go there, working on so many tasks to fulfill so many needs. These folks, like those who contributed to the drive this week, are committed to making life just a bit easier for someone tomorrow. 

Red Cross Blood Drive at St. Dominic Church on December 27th

Blood donations are needed all year round to save lives. 

The only source of human blood is from humans who generously, thoughtfully and voluntarily donate blood so that someone else's life might be saved. 

 St. Dominic Church of Southington, CT is sponsoring a Red Cross Blood Drive on Thursday, December 27th from 1 pm to 5:45 pm
in its church hall, the Geraghty Parish Center. 


Donors may register by calling 1-800-Red Cross (1-800-733-2767), or they may do so online at www.redcrossblood.org

Blood and platelet donations tend to decline during the holiday season as schedules become more hectic for many people. But, the need for blood is constant year-round. Your donation could be a life-saving gift to someone in urgent need.

Saturday, December 8, 2012

The Nativity: A Gift to Our Community

The Nativity: A Live Musical Production at St. Domininc Church Sunday, December 9,  2012 at 6:30 pm
A Gift to the Greater Southington Community

As published in the Southington Citizen December 7, 2012
by E. Richard Fortunato
Photographs by Margaret Waage

Kelly Nowik as Mary - Nativity 2011
A one-evening performance of the inspiring story of “The Nativity: Birth of Jesus, King and Savior” will be presented in a live musical production at 6:30 pm on Sunday, December 9th      at St. Dominic Church in Southington.  All are invited to enjoy this 2,000 year-old story of hope, love, peace and joy and the miracle of Christmas.  The script is a musical adaptation of the Nativity as written in the Gospel, with the story alternating between live action scenes and narration, all visible on the church’s large screens.  The music was selected for the script by the production’s director, Lisa Carroll, who is well known locally for her years of theatrical talent and experience.  Carroll is also the director of the St. Dominic H.I.S. Contemporary Choir, a dedicated group of accomplished vocal and instrumental talent who also take part in the production.
Craig Simms as Joseph, Kelly Nowik as Mary and Child
For years I had thought about the idea of producing a live musical for the season of Advent.  Finally, in the spring of 2010, I took the idea to Lisa Carroll whom I knew well for her extensive local theatrical experience.  I would need someone like Lisa to direct such a production.
Lisa liked the idea and suggested we work on a simple production given the very limited resources we had. By September, I had the first draft of a script.  Lisa and I worked on it together, fine-tuning it for smooth scene transitions, inserting appropriate musical selections as we developed it, always striving to keep it simple.  Lisa handled the multiple tasks of a director, casting, rehearsals, costume needs, etc. while I worked out some large screen shots for the narrated portions of the story. 

Maggie Carroll as Angel Announcing Good News to Shepherds 
We did a one night gig in December 2010 which seemed to please a small audience of about 300.  Last year we added a scene and presented it to a 50% larger audience and we are now ready for our third annual presentation Sunday evening, December 9th at 6:30 pm at St. Dominic Church.
There is no charge for admission. A brief reception and refreshments will follow in the Geraghty Parish Center.  We are inspired by the hope that this production will be a worthwhile gift of the season to you. Come and bring a group with you. It’ll take only an hour of your busy time including parking to be moved by the story of the Nativity and the true spirit of Christmas.  We’ll be pleased to see you Sunday evening

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Answer the Salvation Army Bells at Walmart from Noon to 1 PM, Monday, Dec. 10th and they will match your donation to feed our local hungry!

An Urgent Call for Southington's Hungriest . . .

Salvation Army volunteer, stands in the cold,
ringing the bells for those who are hungry.
Will you answer the call! 
At exactly noon on Monday, December 10th, the Salvation Army bells will ring for one hour in front of Walmart on Queen Street.  State Sen. Joe Markley and State Rep. Rob Sampson will be ringing the bells to help Southington Community Services raise money for our local Food Pantry to help feed our local hungry.

"With continuing challenging economic times, contributions have continued to fall short of the need this year.", said SCS Director, Janet Mellon. A year ago, Mellon collaborated with Sen. Markley and Rep. Sampson who were able to set up a one-hour bell ringing fund raiser for the hungry. Salvation Army volunteers were stationed at Walmart locations across the state.  The donations were matched by Walmart in each town.

The people of Southington donated an amazing total of $12,500 in just one hour! Walmart matched that so that Southington Community Services received $25,000 to help feed our local hungry. Mellon, and other leaders in the town's charity organizations were astonished.  It had been the largest such collection in the entire state. Bread for Life's executive director, Eldon Hafford and Calvanese Foundation financial director, Kathy Reinhard were overjoyed at the enormous generosity of the people of Southington. .

The success was the result of the combined efforts of so many organizations in town, charities, faith congregations, businesses, professionals, the Fire Department, Police Department and other town departments. Most important was that it was a grass roots collaborative effort of the citizens, residents and those who work in Southington who came through. Markley and Sampson said he was thrilled at the result.

Can we do it again on Monday, December 10th?  Will you make a donation and ask at least two other people to do the same?  Southington Police Chief, Jack Daly, said:  "We need publicity. Let the people of Southington know and they will do the job!"  So, please, tell your neighbors, friends, fellow employees, your employer and members of your faith congregation about Southington's second annual one-hour holiday campaign to fight hunger here in Southington. .

Remember, donors do not have to personally go down to the Salvation Army Bell Ringing! You can combine your donations with others, in advance, and have just one person bring the money (or checks made payable to Salvation Army) down to Walmart between noon and 1:00 pm.

Mellon offers another option:  Bring your donations down to Southington Community Services and Food Pantry at 91 Norton Street in Plantsville anytime before noon on Monday. "We will bring every dollar collected down to Walmart so it can earn their matching dollars."
L to R: Janet Mellon, Director of SCS; Garry Brumback,
Southington Town Manager; Sen. Joe Markley;
and State Rep. Rob Sampson

Southington has a uniquely proud history of successfully meeting community-wide missions such as this. We have done it in the past and we can do it again. As seen in the photo at right, State and Town Officials present special awards to Janet Mellon and Kathy Reinhard who represented the countless volunteers helping feed the hungry in Southingon at a volunteer appreciation pizza luncheon this summer at the Back Nine.

Before you go, will you think for just a few moments about hunger. The experience is unimaginable, the very worst condition of human suffering.  
Please answer the call!